One of the major threats to marriage serenity during the holiday season is where do we celebrate. Few couples discuss before marriage at whose house will they celebrate Thanksgiving and Christmas. There is no right or easy solution to this dilemma only love.
Are you willing to submit to the happiness of your mate? Are you so bound by family traditions that all options for compromise are closed? Are you so intimidated by parents and others that you dare not show up? Are you still chained to traditions from prior relationships.
How do we address these questions godly and orderly. Read the following verses and write down what is the summary of them relative to treating one another.
Php 2:3 [Let] nothing [be done] through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.
Ro 12:10 [Be] kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honor preferring one another;
Eph 4:2 ¶ With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love;
Honestly outside of love and submission there is no way to resolve this
problem. However if either spouse has failed to leave and cleave the issue
will only be amplified. Communication is essential if acceptable resolution
is to take place without lasting offence to either party.
# FINANCE FOR THE HOLIDAYS
Three words which must be defined;
When is the attempt to acquire something a symbol of the lust within? Let’s briefly discuss where you might be.
Are you fulfilling desires when needs are unmet.? Is this a regular occurring event. Are you fulfilling wants when needs are unmet?
How does scripture view this approach to lifestyle?
Let’s read Psalm 37:21? According to this verse how are you viewed in God’s eyes.
Discuss Prov 3:27
What destiny is proclaimed upon the person of Jer 22:13?
DEVELOPING A SOUND PLAN FOR HOLIDAY SPENDING
How do you as a couple respond to and resolve the following questions:
(all these hopefully will not apply to you personally)
1.Buying for children from a previous relationship.
Buying for Step children.
Who delivers the gifts?
Gift buying habits should alter once marriage occurs. But how is it done